You won’t UNDERSTAND!!!

So, it happened today, one of my friend shared an Ola cab to commute from one place to another and was completely white frightened face when we saw him. Upon enquiring, he revealed that he was in a cab with a macho looking heavy build homosexual, who tried to press his hand while sitting in the back side of the car. He was signalling to my friend, And this is what frightened him. While he was explaining his part how he felt, one of the girls said don’t worry everything is fine now and we do understand what you might have gone through. Have some water and relax.

This guy stood up and shouted- you won’t ever understand how it feels.

The epic reply from my girl-

Oh really! You think we won’t understand how it feels when every second guy walking on the street looks at us, as if we are a piece of flesh and he is a dog.

We won’t understand, when we are not even safe in public places, leave about the secluded places.

We won’t understand, when we are not safe in our own homes between our own families.

We won’t understand, when we have to check at least twice or thrice to make sure that we locked the house properly and all other windows and gates are properly shut.

We won’t understand, when our own family or relatives tells our parents about our clothes that they are not appropriate and we should change them according to their comfort level.

We won’t understand, when we don’t walk on big streets at night.

We won’t understand, when men passes lewd comments and yell dirty things to us.

We won’t understand when they take every single opportunity to grab us, as if we belongs to them and are not a human being.

We won’t understand, when we have been advised to keep pepper spray, knives in our bags at an easily accessible pocket.

We won’t understand, when while buying keychains we go for the one that doubles as a knife.

We won’t understand, when our mothers taught us how to use keys as a safety tool.

We won’t understand, when we live every second on a rape schedule. You know what initially, I wasn’t agreed with this rape schedule thing but when explained I completely agreed to this- because of the constant fear of rape or being sexually assault, women does things throughout the day to protect themselves. Whether it’s carrying keys or small knives in hand while walking on the roads, locking car from inside the moment we jump into it, not walking down certain streets at all.

You know what! taking precautions is not a bad idea but the fact is certain things are so ingrained in us that it’s actually disturbing. It’s like living in a prison all the time. We can’t assume we are safe anywhere, be it our office, home, roads, school, colleges, anywhere in this world and we are so used to feeling this unsafe and the worst part is we don’t see it as a problem. And no one wants to work upon it.

Now coming back to your point that we won’t understand how it feels. I request you to put some light on this so that me and my other female friends can at least try to understand.

Meenakshi Vatsa

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Life Has Been Good To ME

LIFE – an opportunity given to all of us to learn and grow and continue learning on every failed attempt. We suffer in flesh however learning is at soul level. Soul would never forget what it has learned but yes its standard can be degraded by falling for not much required things and so much of world surrounding us. Same lesson would come again and again in different styles and shapes until we learn them completely and clear them successfully. Running away is never an option with life. We need to be there in the mid of all chaos and have to fight, breath and survive to go to next level. Its like most of the video games, lets say Mario clearing one level and then moving on to next more difficult level to get to the dragon and save the princess. However in life the one we try to save is our own soul.
Its a journey of ups and downs. The collaboration with people. No matter how much independent we become we still need people directly and indirectly and vice versa they need us. No learning without people and so no growing. The greed of human being can never be satisfied however the need is very easy to satisfy.

Just like seasons, people too come and go from our lives and yes we should be sticky enough to hold them with us while being open enough to let them go when they want to and don’t try to be a blocking stone in their journey.
I am one of those luckiest person who has always been blessed with the gems. They have always been kind, loving, compassionate, accepting and forgiving to me. I am thankful to all – People who came and went, who are still there and people who will be there till end and people who has joined in the mid and may leave before it all ends. They all has taught me lessons and values unending that I will be carrying with my soul. Few has taught me lesson with scars and I am so grateful for these scars as they are the sign that I have been strong enough when I could have broken and shattered into pieces and yes I can make it further again. It proves me my endurance in tough time. I am blessed to have people who made efforts to make me believe in one supreme power and encouraged me to experience myself than believing on what is said and already written by someone else.

We all gets addicted to someone that takes away all the pain and sorrow and I got addicted with you, LIFE. No matter how much you put on me, I am falling more and more and deeper and deeper for you. Life, you are like a roller coaster and I love riding you. I am happily tuning myself with you and ready to play the same strings and tune you are playing. Yes you have been too good to me and trust me I am not gonna ditch you for anyone. I am trusting you even when I can’t understand you. I know you have all the answers with you and I am happy to wait for you to happen. I am shouting out to the world that yes you, you life

– Has Been Good To Me.

Meenakshi Vatsa

Love Yourself Enough To Love Someone

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Why people cheat?

Yes, it’s true that once a cheater is always a cheater and there is no way I am trying to defend the cheater. No, I am not and I myself, am completely against cheating and a cheater has no respect in my sight. I am not judging them but again I can’t accept a cheater in any relationship with me because when I know that someone pertains cheating in ones behaviour then there are 99.99 percent changes of the same person cheating upon me as well, if required and I am not ready to play gamble upon 0.01 percent of chances being them honest and loyal with me.

So yes, I was talking about why people cheat. There could be several reasons of cheating but we are also one of the reason. It’s hard to accept for me even that I am or I can be one of the reasons for being cheated. However, the harsh truth is – Yes. I am or can be.

When we love someone, we give everything we have to that person. Our heart, our mind, our soul, our thoughts and everything that belongs to us. We try to be a part of their likes, we watch their favorite TV serials, movies, matches, we dress up the way they want, we even eat what they like. In Short, we forget ourselves in the process of loving them.

WOW! It’s the perfect love we could have planned for. But we still got cheated. What we have not done in order to fill that gap. Is the other person more handsome/beautiful than us, do they love our partners more than us? Or something between us has been changed? We spend so much of our time and energy in figuring this out. And we applaud and appreciate ourselves for changing completely for our partners.

But here we forgot that when we both fall in love, we both were opposite poles and here the ‘opposite attracts’ worked. The person they fall in love was an independent, free spirited and self loving person and whose likes and hobbies were totally different from theirs. The moment we both came in contact with each other we got to see new ideas, new ways of doing the same things or I can say a new world to explore. But here one of us left their world permanently and instead of exploring the other world we started living there and made it the home no matter how uncomfortable we were. And we are no longer that person as we have changed ourselves for their love sake. Our partner does not have the same person with whom they fall in love. The ‘opposite attract’ person is their clone now. Who wants to live with a clone? At least not me.
And I am sure not you as a partners as well.

Remember, you and your partner used to surprise each other with every different hobby or likes of yours. And yes, you guys used to enjoy each other so much. Even the silence between both of you was loving. Now when you are clone partner who does everything same then the other partner miss – the real you, the shining smile on your face, the craziness in your eyes, the surprises you used to bought them.

No, they don’t love the other person like the way they love you. They will always choose you when it’s comes to choose between you and the third person. But when the third person (who is like the way you were) is in front of them, they feel tempted and most of the people cannot ignore that lucrative offer.

It’s not wrong to love someone but yes It’s wrong to change completely for them, becoming their clone and forgetting what you are and what you want. You cannot make anyone happy until you are happy and you cannot be happy if you are in a continuous process of killing yourself. So don’t kill yourself in order to love someone. If they love you today for what you are then they will always love you. And if they still chose to cheat then you know that you are not the reason behind cheating. We cannot stop someone from cheating but we can be in control of ourselves. Even if someone cheats we still know how to be happy and love ourselves. Don’t make their world your permanent home. Be in your world and explore the other world.

Love yourself enough to love someone.