Why people cheat?
Yes, it’s true that once a cheater is always a cheater and there is no way I am trying to defend the cheater. No, I am not and I myself, am completely against cheating and a cheater has no respect in my sight. I am not judging them but again I can’t accept a cheater in any relationship with me because when I know that someone pertains cheating in ones behaviour then there are 99.99 percent changes of the same person cheating upon me as well, if required and I am not ready to play gamble upon 0.01 percent of chances being them honest and loyal with me.
So yes, I was talking about why people cheat. There could be several reasons of cheating but we are also one of the reason. It’s hard to accept for me even that I am or I can be one of the reasons for being cheated. However, the harsh truth is – Yes. I am or can be.
When we love someone, we give everything we have to that person. Our heart, our mind, our soul, our thoughts and everything that belongs to us. We try to be a part of their likes, we watch their favorite TV serials, movies, matches, we dress up the way they want, we even eat what they like. In Short, we forget ourselves in the process of loving them.
WOW! It’s the perfect love we could have planned for. But we still got cheated. What we have not done in order to fill that gap. Is the other person more handsome/beautiful than us, do they love our partners more than us? Or something between us has been changed? We spend so much of our time and energy in figuring this out. And we applaud and appreciate ourselves for changing completely for our partners.
But here we forgot that when we both fall in love, we both were opposite poles and here the ‘opposite attracts’ worked. The person they fall in love was an independent, free spirited and self loving person and whose likes and hobbies were totally different from theirs. The moment we both came in contact with each other we got to see new ideas, new ways of doing the same things or I can say a new world to explore. But here one of us left their world permanently and instead of exploring the other world we started living there and made it the home no matter how uncomfortable we were. And we are no longer that person as we have changed ourselves for their love sake. Our partner does not have the same person with whom they fall in love. The ‘opposite attract’ person is their clone now. Who wants to live with a clone? At least not me.
And I am sure not you as a partners as well.
Remember, you and your partner used to surprise each other with every different hobby or likes of yours. And yes, you guys used to enjoy each other so much. Even the silence between both of you was loving. Now when you are clone partner who does everything same then the other partner miss – the real you, the shining smile on your face, the craziness in your eyes, the surprises you used to bought them.
No, they don’t love the other person like the way they love you. They will always choose you when it’s comes to choose between you and the third person. But when the third person (who is like the way you were) is in front of them, they feel tempted and most of the people cannot ignore that lucrative offer.
It’s not wrong to love someone but yes It’s wrong to change completely for them, becoming their clone and forgetting what you are and what you want. You cannot make anyone happy until you are happy and you cannot be happy if you are in a continuous process of killing yourself. So don’t kill yourself in order to love someone. If they love you today for what you are then they will always love you. And if they still chose to cheat then you know that you are not the reason behind cheating. We cannot stop someone from cheating but we can be in control of ourselves. Even if someone cheats we still know how to be happy and love ourselves. Don’t make their world your permanent home. Be in your world and explore the other world.
Love yourself enough to love someone.