So, it happened today, one of my friend shared an Ola cab to commute from one place to another and was completely white frightened face when we saw him. Upon enquiring, he revealed that he was in a cab with a macho looking heavy build homosexual, who tried to press his hand while sitting in the back side of the car. He was signalling to my friend, And this is what frightened him. While he was explaining his part how he felt, one of the girls said don’t worry everything is fine now and we do understand what you might have gone through. Have some water and relax.
This guy stood up and shouted- you won’t ever understand how it feels.
The epic reply from my girl-
Oh really! You think we won’t understand how it feels when every second guy walking on the street looks at us, as if we are a piece of flesh and he is a dog.
We won’t understand, when we are not even safe in public places, leave about the secluded places.
We won’t understand, when we are not safe in our own homes between our own families.
We won’t understand, when we have to check at least twice or thrice to make sure that we locked the house properly and all other windows and gates are properly shut.
We won’t understand, when our own family or relatives tells our parents about our clothes that they are not appropriate and we should change them according to their comfort level.
We won’t understand, when we don’t walk on big streets at night.
We won’t understand, when men passes lewd comments and yell dirty things to us.
We won’t understand when they take every single opportunity to grab us, as if we belongs to them and are not a human being.
We won’t understand, when we have been advised to keep pepper spray, knives in our bags at an easily accessible pocket.
We won’t understand, when while buying keychains we go for the one that doubles as a knife.
We won’t understand, when our mothers taught us how to use keys as a safety tool.
We won’t understand, when we live every second on a rape schedule. You know what initially, I wasn’t agreed with this rape schedule thing but when explained I completely agreed to this- because of the constant fear of rape or being sexually assault, women does things throughout the day to protect themselves. Whether it’s carrying keys or small knives in hand while walking on the roads, locking car from inside the moment we jump into it, not walking down certain streets at all.
You know what! taking precautions is not a bad idea but the fact is certain things are so ingrained in us that it’s actually disturbing. It’s like living in a prison all the time. We can’t assume we are safe anywhere, be it our office, home, roads, school, colleges, anywhere in this world and we are so used to feeling this unsafe and the worst part is we don’t see it as a problem. And no one wants to work upon it.
Now coming back to your point that we won’t understand how it feels. I request you to put some light on this so that me and my other female friends can at least try to understand.