You won’t UNDERSTAND!!!

So, it happened today, one of my friend shared an Ola cab to commute from one place to another and was completely white frightened face when we saw him. Upon enquiring, he revealed that he was in a cab with a macho looking heavy build homosexual, who tried to press his hand while sitting in the back side of the car. He was signalling to my friend, And this is what frightened him. While he was explaining his part how he felt, one of the girls said don’t worry everything is fine now and we do understand what you might have gone through. Have some water and relax.

This guy stood up and shouted- you won’t ever understand how it feels.

The epic reply from my girl-

Oh really! You think we won’t understand how it feels when every second guy walking on the street looks at us, as if we are a piece of flesh and he is a dog.

We won’t understand, when we are not even safe in public places, leave about the secluded places.

We won’t understand, when we are not safe in our own homes between our own families.

We won’t understand, when we have to check at least twice or thrice to make sure that we locked the house properly and all other windows and gates are properly shut.

We won’t understand, when our own family or relatives tells our parents about our clothes that they are not appropriate and we should change them according to their comfort level.

We won’t understand, when we don’t walk on big streets at night.

We won’t understand, when men passes lewd comments and yell dirty things to us.

We won’t understand when they take every single opportunity to grab us, as if we belongs to them and are not a human being.

We won’t understand, when we have been advised to keep pepper spray, knives in our bags at an easily accessible pocket.

We won’t understand, when while buying keychains we go for the one that doubles as a knife.

We won’t understand, when our mothers taught us how to use keys as a safety tool.

We won’t understand, when we live every second on a rape schedule. You know what initially, I wasn’t agreed with this rape schedule thing but when explained I completely agreed to this- because of the constant fear of rape or being sexually assault, women does things throughout the day to protect themselves. Whether it’s carrying keys or small knives in hand while walking on the roads, locking car from inside the moment we jump into it, not walking down certain streets at all.

You know what! taking precautions is not a bad idea but the fact is certain things are so ingrained in us that it’s actually disturbing. It’s like living in a prison all the time. We can’t assume we are safe anywhere, be it our office, home, roads, school, colleges, anywhere in this world and we are so used to feeling this unsafe and the worst part is we don’t see it as a problem. And no one wants to work upon it.

Now coming back to your point that we won’t understand how it feels. I request you to put some light on this so that me and my other female friends can at least try to understand.

Meenakshi Vatsa

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Life Has Been Good To ME

LIFE – an opportunity given to all of us to learn and grow and continue learning on every failed attempt. We suffer in flesh however learning is at soul level. Soul would never forget what it has learned but yes its standard can be degraded by falling for not much required things and so much of world surrounding us. Same lesson would come again and again in different styles and shapes until we learn them completely and clear them successfully. Running away is never an option with life. We need to be there in the mid of all chaos and have to fight, breath and survive to go to next level. Its like most of the video games, lets say Mario clearing one level and then moving on to next more difficult level to get to the dragon and save the princess. However in life the one we try to save is our own soul.
Its a journey of ups and downs. The collaboration with people. No matter how much independent we become we still need people directly and indirectly and vice versa they need us. No learning without people and so no growing. The greed of human being can never be satisfied however the need is very easy to satisfy.

Just like seasons, people too come and go from our lives and yes we should be sticky enough to hold them with us while being open enough to let them go when they want to and don’t try to be a blocking stone in their journey.
I am one of those luckiest person who has always been blessed with the gems. They have always been kind, loving, compassionate, accepting and forgiving to me. I am thankful to all – People who came and went, who are still there and people who will be there till end and people who has joined in the mid and may leave before it all ends. They all has taught me lessons and values unending that I will be carrying with my soul. Few has taught me lesson with scars and I am so grateful for these scars as they are the sign that I have been strong enough when I could have broken and shattered into pieces and yes I can make it further again. It proves me my endurance in tough time. I am blessed to have people who made efforts to make me believe in one supreme power and encouraged me to experience myself than believing on what is said and already written by someone else.

We all gets addicted to someone that takes away all the pain and sorrow and I got addicted with you, LIFE. No matter how much you put on me, I am falling more and more and deeper and deeper for you. Life, you are like a roller coaster and I love riding you. I am happily tuning myself with you and ready to play the same strings and tune you are playing. Yes you have been too good to me and trust me I am not gonna ditch you for anyone. I am trusting you even when I can’t understand you. I know you have all the answers with you and I am happy to wait for you to happen. I am shouting out to the world that yes you, you life

– Has Been Good To Me.

Meenakshi Vatsa

Life


At one stage of our lives, we all must have thought, what is life?

Life is an opportunity given to all of us to reshape ourselve, where in rest of the souls helps us by creating favourable and unfavourable circumstances and situations. It’s a battle, where we may or may not have control over the action but the REACTION belongs to us. Our reaction should construct us for big battles of furure or next lifes. Its a continuous process of births and deaths towards perfection. 

Meenakshi Vatsa

Breaking Force

Unnecessary force breaks and once something or someone is broken can never ever come in the same shape, may become more or less beautiful and worthy but never same. 

Meenakshi Vatsa

I Am Glad You Are Gone, Gone Forever.


Loving you with whole my heart even when you made me question about all the reasons I fall for you, is my talent and heart. You have got nothing to do with it. You never know how tough it is to get your heart broken by someone whom you trusted the most. The only wish for you is that God/karma never let you go through that pain. To be honest, I still love you but I’m glad you are gone and gone forever. 

Meenakshi Vatsa

Micro Tale


If you ever forget me, how would you recognise me? – he asked.

My soul would always recognise you even if mind won’t be able to recall who you are. – she replied without taking any other moment while playing with her hairs. 

Meenakshi Vatsa

Those 3 Days, 5 Days Or 7 Days Has Nothing To Do With Her Being IMPURE And NON-PIOUS

Menstruation – a taboo word in our society. Everyone knows about it but no one wants to or comfortable to talk about it. Its just like an insurance – we all need it but no one wants to buy it.
In our society and in many other societies, menstruation is considered as being unholy, unclean and embarrassing. Different cultures have different views about it. In the era of 1980’s, most of the females used to think as inappropriate to discuss periods or menstruation with their male friends or father. Most of the people sill think it should be hidden and kept secret.
Different religions have different opinions about menstruation: 
BAHAI FAITH : Bahaullah, the founder abolished all forms of ritual impurities to people and things and stressed upon the cleanliness and spiritual purities. Menstruating women are encouraged to pray and are not required to fast.
CHRISTIANITY: Few people defended the exclusion of women from ministry based on a notion of uncleanness. Others said the law been a part of ild testament and can be discarded. As Christ allowed himself to be touched by a hemorrhaging woman and cured her as well. 
HINDUISM: In hinduism, menstruating women are traditionally considered ritually impure and given strict rules to follow. 
ISLAM: In Islam, a menstruating female is neither required nor prohibited from prayer and performing other religious activities.
JUDAISM: menstruating female is considered ritually unclean – “anyone who touches her will be unclean until evening”. Touching a menstruating female, touching an object she had sat on or lain on, or having intercourse with her also makes a person ritually unclean.
SIKHISM: In Sikhism, woman is given equal status to man and is regarded as pure as man is. one cannot be pure by washing his body but purity of mind is the real pureness. Guru Nanak condemned the practice of treating women as impure while menstruating.
According to human anatomy, menstruation is a natural process and leaving it here only as don’t want to go into technicalities of menstruation ( further information can be read online on google). It’s as natural as puberty, voice changes and any other hormonal changes in men. 
We live in a 21st century and are educated enough to understand wrong and right however the irony is we still treat women as unholy, unclean during her menstruation. In many families, women are not allowed to worship, enter temple, kitchen, cook, eat in normal utensils, bathe, go out, sleep on the same bed with her husband etc.
If a women in no condition or mood to do this then its okay. However, in most of the scenarios, it has been observed that they are forced to do all this. Per me it’s inhuman, insane and embarrassing. No one has the right to treat any women like this. 
There is nothing to be ashamed about being menstruating or on periods. By saying periods are natural, I mean all women menstruate. Do we feel embarrassed when we get a cut on finger and bleed. No, because its a natural process to bleed, if cut. Then how hard it is to understand that menstruating is also a natural process. A women menstruating is unholy and unclean. A women who does not menstruating is what? Again an unholy, unclean and one more thing – cursed. So if we go by this example then we, women will always be unholy and unclean, irrespective we menstruate or not. 
People are doing so much against period shaming, there are multiple posts and videos going viral in order to make us understand that it has nothing to do with being pious or non pious. 
Menstruating is a boon for any women, a God gift of motherhood. It’s a proof that she is capable of carrying this world further in her womb. Let’s not give more chances to people to shame us or embarrass us anymore. Stand and raise your voice whenever it is required to. If we won’t stand today then our daughters would also suffer the same what we are suffering.